Changing yourself for the wrong reasons

Bored out of my mind one day, I started to watch a TV show called ‘Too Close For Comfort’. It was a short lived sitcom, lasting about 5 seasons. Interesting and all that.

Mom and dad have two college age daughters and are living in a too small apartment in half a house. When the only other tenant moves out, the girls move into it together, giving them some space from mom and dad. 

Anywho, second episode I’ve watched has this guy friend of theirs who is in his 20’s and is a virgin. He talks to the girls dad about his ‘problem’ and how to solve it. Mom then talks to the girls about it, including telling the blond ‘pretty’ one that she’ll have to change how she dresses. No more sexy and tight clothes.

I’m not much of a feminist, but this pissed me off and I did in fact yell at the TV ‘Why the fuck should she change how she’s dressed?’

Honestly, I didn’t care for her clothes, but saying she should change just to keep their male friend, who happens to be searching for a way to ‘fix’ his sexual problem.

I can’t count the ways in which this bothered me.

Now, I’m not talking about breaking a rule and then saying ‘Stupid you, its a bad rule and I’ll do what I want… What do you mean I’m in trouble?'

Stupid rule or not, break it and you can expect to get in trouble.

No, I’m talking about the rules in general. “Girls can’t wear this, guys will get distracted.” “She had it coming, with how she was dressed.” “He was shirtless, asking for me to touch him."

Not being allowed to wear what I want because I may ‘distract’ someone else is bullshit.

Implying that because I wore something, I deserved to be treated badly or have attentions forced upon me is bullshit.

I don’t care what your sex is, if its not your body its off limits without permission. Unless there is a LEGITIMATE reason, what I wear is none of your business.

There are always going to be ‘reasons’, but most won’t be good. Most are nothing more than an excuse to let the culprit transfer blame.

/rant

Kristy C 

Arrow... Catching up.

Last season I started to watch Arrow, but got distracted and disliked it.  However, I'd like to watch the Flash and figured I'd give it another try.

I'm 8 episodes into the show and I am enjoying it.  There's a loooooooooooot of drama, which I understand is a part of the show, but... Its also too much at times.

Honestly, I don't have a lot to say today.  I got myself made up by a friend so I could get head shots by another friend, all for the award thingy I'm up for.

Then I added 1371 words into my story and killed my first bad guy.  Parts of the story feel like they're moving a bit fast, but its something I plan on going back to work on later.

Kristy C

New Fall Shows... 2 of...

Got a chance to watch Gracepoint last night.  Gotta say, what's interesting is that where How to Get Away With Murder is fast paced and jumpy, but in a good way, this one is slower and plodding along.

The difference makes it hard to watch one right after another, but still enjoyable.  I'm gonna keep watching it and see where it goes for now.  I'm fairly hard to please, but having the chance to watch them on my laptop, while I do other things, might be what I need to keep at it.  Also hoping my dad is able to upgrade things next year and I'll perhaps get my own box.

Sadly, most of the shows coming out this year [that I wanna see] are dramas and I can't handle too much in one night.  I'll catch up a on others this week. And I promise to not post it tomorrow.  :D

Kristy C

New Fall Shows... 1 of...

I've been catching up on the new falls shows this weekend.  That was of course, after discovering that I could watch them on my laptop thanks to Xfinity.  :P  Dur, never thought of that.

Selfie:  I liked it.  Yes, its an obvious modern take on My Fair Lady, but that's also a classic story and one that's easily remakeable.  I'm not sure its got more than a few seasons in it, as they've already hinted too much at the possible relationship between the leads.  ~Shrugs~ I'm sure they'll work it all out.

How to Get Away With Murder:  First off, I love a good murder mystery.  Pretty sure I've mentioned that.  Secondly, this may be the kind of show that has some cast changes every season, which I don't mind too much.  The storytelling in it is pretty cool.  I'm enjoying the way it all unfolds, both past and present.  Often with a sly comment made in the past, that they then show in the present... But expand on as the story goes.  As an example, seeing the people waiting in a car, then seeing the person who was shopping, while they waited, then seeing the other side of a phone call that was placed by the shopper.  As of episode 2, we still don't know what exactly is going on, but we're picking up clues.  Its sort of like starting in the middle of the ending, then jumping back to show how you got there, while advancing the ending.  By the end of the season, I expect we'll have caught up to the present and see it all unfold.

I got half way through Gracepoint, but did a few writing sprints and then got super tired, so I'll try and finish it tomorrow and perhaps another one.

What new shows are you excited about or have you enjoyed?

Kristy C

What Dreams May Come....

We all have dreams in our lives.  A few weeks ago I talked about my childhood dream of owning a bookstore, and how it changed into owning my own business and being an author.  So today, I'm going to talk about a few of my current dreams.  The big, and the small.

I'd love to have my jewelry business stable enough to support me.
I'd like to move out of my fathers house [I'm 32, but he's supporting me and I don't think he's upset.  I made mistakes in the past and am working on a tough road out.]

I'd love to have a simple place to live and work.
I'd love to lose some weight.
I'd really love to be in less pain.

I'd love to have one of my stories turned into a comic book or a graphic novel.
I'd also love to have one turned into a mini-series or a movie, but those are farther down the road.
I'd dream of having my jewelry walk the red carpet at a movie premier or an awards show.
I want my jewelry to be in a movie.  I want there to be a line at the end of the credits saying 'Jewelry provided by Vintage Fusion Jewels'.

And, I want to grow old with my friends and watch their kids grow up.  I want to be their aunt who buys them books and teaches them how to play black jack.  I want to be the person they run away from home too.

I don't think any one of these is more or less important than another, except that last one.  That's the one I don't think I could live without.

What are your dreams? Leave them in the comments, I truly want to know.

Kristy C